What type of guy turns you on

I care about you, simply because you're alive. I also look at that guy who just gave up his seat in a new light. He comes across as strong, aware, trustworthy, significant. He comes across like a man. If you know how to do this right slowly, softly, gently , it is one of the sexiest things in the world.

I love the feeling of being touched between states of consciousness, of arousal before awareness. I adore the dissolving quality of dark, sleepy caresses, the extension of the dreamlike state of not knowing where you stop and I begin. And I love the slow build, the way a man who knows what he's doing carefully rearranges my body for me, gently positioning me so that I don't have to do anything.

The fact that he's guiding the situation, softly but firmly in control, means that I can just lay there languidly and enjoy the ride. Yes, please. Over and over and three times on Sunday. I have many talents. I can speak five languages. I'm a good writer. I'm exquisitely empathetic. I kick ass at Trivial Pursuit. I can even dance the tango at a near—professional level. However, I suck at practical, common sense stuff.

But my dude roommate can. And I gotta tell you, it's sexy. I came home the other day and a set of lights that had been out for months literally months! Just like that. Ditto the thermostat. I didn't follow it because I just don't care. I do, however, care that I can now actually see objects in the living room.

It's also true. I find it somehow deeply satisfying that men are distinct. I love that I'm good at things that they're not, and that they effortlessly do things I don't understand at all.

I compliment you for complementing me. It's freeing. It's also sexy. When I am absolutely losing it about something legitimate or not , I don't need to be fixed. I don't need to be told what to do, I don't need advice, and I certainly don't need someone to tell me to calm down. I just need to be witnessed.

That's right, when I'm on my crazy train, I don't want a man to try to stop it he won't be able to, anyway. I just want him to be with me while I'm on it. I want to know I'm not alone. So the man who quietly listens, who takes it all in without taking it too seriously, is unbelievably sexy. He is sexy in his solidity, he's sexy in his presence, he's sexy in his naturally grounded nature. He's extra super really sexy when I can tell that not only is he not intimidated by my freakout, he's actually respectfully entertained by it - he welcomes it.

Those exceptional men I've been with who enjoy the ride, who witness my storms or those of other women with a knowing look, a wisdom that goes beyond my high-strung-ness or defensiveness or just general freakout, are rare and also sexy. Straight up, it is hot when a man is genuinely good at playing with kids. This does not include faking it to get attention from women—obviously that's a huge turn-off and dude, we're biologically made to know when you're faking it.

No, it's only—and very—hot when he actually likes them. It's probably something primordial, basic, an animalistic understanding that he'd be good at playing with our kids. But who cares? Because it's not just a sweet moment, like, "Awww, look how good he is with that kid. It doesn't make me want to have babies with you, but it sure makes me want to make them with you.

Just kidding. Greenberg explains that this behavior is a form of narcissism, and that he can't see his partners beyond being either a completely flawless soul mate, or a wholly bad person. Having someone change their mind so often is exhausting, but there's a reason you can feel so attached. He seems to constantly undercut you, but it's usually framed as a "joke.

What he says doesn't make you feel good, but if you bring it up, he tells you he's just teasing and you're being way too sensitive. This is precisely why it's really important to learn to trust your gut when a guy's "jokes" make you feel off. She elaborates to say that actually-decent people can be filled with enough self-doubt to fall for these criticisms.

It's normal and good to question where you can grow as a person — but a healthy partner will critique you with kindness and, you know, not all the time. He has a girlfriend, but either swears he'll break up with her for you or already has. You've heard "once a cheater, always a cheater" so many times, but you wonder, if this time, it's not actually relevant. Of course, serial cheaters wouldn't get the "serial" in their name if they weren't appealing enough to make you ignore their dirtbag actions.

Greenberg explains the phenomenon of falling for a repeat-cheater as simply believing that him cheating had more to do with the other women than it did with him. As incredible and special as he might make you feel, you're more of an escape to him than someone he "just loves so much" that he has to cheat on his current-girlfriend. This is the guy who goes off about his own opinions and accomplishments so often that a part of you is actually embarrassed to be with him.

He talks over your friends and acts like the ultimate authority over everything, yet a part of you believes he might be? According to Dr. Greenberg, sometimes arrogance and cockiness is mistaken for true confidence and ability.

And sometimes, if he's a true narcissist, the line between confident and cocky can get blurry. There are a few potential reasons you find yourself dating men who take the "humble" out of "humblebragging. You find the men you date always need you so much more than you need them — from you teaching them to put money in their savings account to re-doing the dishes after they forget to wash the bottoms of the plates. Second would have to be physique. Someone who takes initiative.

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